How To Become Your Best Self – 7 Awesome Tips
We all carry a picture in our minds of who we want to be — that version of ourselves we’d become if we gave our full effort and focus to that vision.
Still, with so many responsibilities and so little direction, it’s easy to feel lost about where to begin.
Here’s the truth: learning how to become your best self isn’t about being perfect.
It’s not about checking every box on your goal list either — because let’s be real, there will always be something more to chase.
For me, becoming my best self means living the happiest and healthiest life I can right now.
When I focus on doing what makes me feel good today, while also working toward my goals, I notice real growth. That’s when I feel closest to my best self.
I can say this with confidence because at this point in my life, I feel better than ever.
Whether it’s my relationships, my body, or my work, I’m finally giving each part of my life the attention it deserves — and it’s paying off.
Do I still have tough days? Of course.
But most of the time, I feel calm, fulfilled, and steady.
Getting here didn’t happen overnight, but it wasn’t nearly as hard as I once imagined.
Over the past few months, I’ve had fun trying new things and building better habits — and honestly, isn’t joy the reason we do anything in the first place?
In this post, I’ll share 8 simple tips on how to become your best self and bring out the good that’s already inside you.
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1. Start by Getting Honest with Yourself
The first step to becoming your best self is honesty.
And I don’t just mean being honest about what you want — I mean being honest about what’s holding you back.
I used to tell myself I was “too busy” to focus on self-growth.
But what I really was, was scared.
Scared of change.
Scared of failing.
Scared of seeing who I could actually become if I really tried.
When I started admitting the truth to myself, everything shifted.
Honesty is uncomfortable, but it’s powerful.
It’s the mirror that shows you where you are and helps you figure out where to go next.
Ask yourself: What am I avoiding? What’s really standing in my way?
The answers might surprise you — but they’ll also set you free.
2. Build Habits That Match the Life You Want
It’s easy to say you want to become your best self.
But you have to back that vision with action — small, steady habits that match the life you want.
For me, that meant making tiny adjustments.
Drinking more water.
Going for walks instead of scrolling through my phone.
Writing down one good thing every night before bed.
Those little things didn’t seem big at first, but over time they changed how I felt about myself.
The truth is, habits don’t have to be perfect to be powerful.
They just have to be consistent.
Pick one habit you want to build this week.
Start small.
Do it daily.
That’s how you create real change — one simple step at a time.
3. Stop Comparing Yourself to Everyone Else
Comparison is one of the fastest ways to lose sight of who you are.
I used to scroll through social media and wonder why everyone seemed happier, more successful, more “together.”
It made me feel small.
But one day I realized I was comparing my behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel.
That’s not fair to anyone, especially not to me.
Now, when I catch myself comparing, I pause and remind myself that my journey is my own.
No one else has lived my story, and I haven’t lived theirs.
We’re all figuring things out at our own pace.
The moment you stop comparing, you make space to actually appreciate your own growth.
And that’s when real confidence starts to build.
4. Protect Your Energy Like It Matters (Because It Does)
If there’s one lesson that changed everything for me, it’s this: your energy is your greatest resource.
Where you spend it determines how you feel, how you show up, and how much you grow.
I used to say yes to everything and everyone.
But saying yes to everything meant saying no to myself.
Eventually, I learned that protecting my time and energy isn’t selfish — it’s necessary.
Now, I choose what and who I give my attention to.
I spend time with people who make me feel safe and inspired.
I step away from things that drain me.
When you start protecting your energy, you feel lighter, clearer, and more in control.
That’s the version of you that thrives.
5. Learn to Be Kind to Yourself
This one took me the longest to learn.
I used to think being hard on myself would push me to do better.
But it only made me tired and unhappy.
Now I understand that self-kindness isn’t weakness — it’s strength.
It’s the voice that says, “You’re trying your best, and that’s enough right now.”
When I started talking to myself the way I’d talk to a close friend, everything softened.
I stopped punishing myself for mistakes and started learning from them instead.
If you want to know how to become your best self, start by being gentle with the person you already are.
Because self-growth and self-criticism don’t mix well.
6. Do Things That Scare You (A Little)
Growth doesn’t happen in comfort.
Every time I’ve done something that scared me — whether it was starting a new job, sharing my writing, or setting boundaries — I’ve learned something new about myself.
Fear isn’t a sign to stop.
It’s a sign you’re moving toward something that matters.
You don’t have to do something huge or life-changing.
Start small.
Have that hard conversation.
Say yes to the opportunity that makes your heart race a bit.
Those moments of discomfort build courage and self-trust.
And those two things are key to becoming your best self.
7. Surround Yourself with the Right People
Who you spend time with shapes how you see yourself.
When I started surrounding myself with people who supported my growth, I noticed how much lighter and more confident I felt.
The right people don’t just cheer you on when things are good.
They remind you of who you are when things get tough.
They challenge you to stay true to yourself.
Take a look at your circle.
Do the people around you bring out the best in you, or do they drain your energy?
If it’s the latter, it might be time to step back and make space for better connections.
You don’t need a big crowd — just a few genuine people who help you grow are enough.
8. Enjoy the Process, Not Just the Outcome
For a long time, I thought I’d only be happy once I “got there” — once I reached a certain goal or milestone.
But every time I hit one, I just set another.
There was always something more to chase.
Eventually, I realized I was missing the point.
Becoming your best self isn’t a finish line.
It’s a process.
It’s about learning to enjoy who you are becoming while you’re becoming it.
Now, I focus on small moments — a peaceful morning, a deep conversation, a simple win.
That’s what makes life full.
When you start finding joy in the everyday stuff, you stop waiting for happiness to show up later.
You start living it right now.
