How To Enjoy Being Alone: 9 Tips To Love Your Own Company
I’m writing this from my little hometown, at my parents’ house, surrounded by loved ones who have gathered to celebrate Diwali — the festival of lights in my country, India.
The last three days have been a whirlwind of laughter, roaming around town with my cousins, and sampling all kinds of delicious food.
I thought I’d take a complete break from work until I returned to the city. But to my surprise, I found myself slipping away into a quiet room with my laptop, a steaming cup of green tea, and a cozy romance novel.
It might not sound like a big deal — but for me, it’s huge.
For a girl who was once afraid to sit alone with her thoughts for even a minute, choosing solitude over company feels like a milestone.
In this quiet moment, I realized just how far I’ve come in my personal growth journey.
Looking back, I can see the exact habits, decisions, and mindset shifts that helped me feel grounded and fall in love with my own company.
And in this post, I want to share those very steps with you — so you too can embrace solitude, bloom in your own company, and turn moments alone into moments of peace and joy.
But first — pin this post so you can come back to it later!
This is for all my lovely readers who want to stop running from loneliness and instead learn how to enjoy being alone.
It’s not always easy, but with the right mindset, being alone can transform from something heavy into something healing.
Let’s dive in.
9 Ways To Be Happy Alone And Enjoy Your Own Company
1. Stop treating alone time like a punishment
I used to think that if I was alone, it meant something was wrong.
Maybe I wasn’t interesting enough.
Maybe I wasn’t loved enough.
I linked my value to how many people wanted to be around me.
That belief kept me chasing company, even when the company wasn’t good for me.
One day, I asked myself:
What if being alone isn’t a punishment?
What if it’s just a different kind of moment — one that I could make into anything I wanted?
That small shift changed everything.
Now I see alone time as an open space I get to fill in my own way, not a sign that something is missing.
2. Make your space feel like home for you
When you spend time alone, your environment matters.
If your space feels messy, harsh, or uncomfortable, you’ll want to escape it.
I started by making my room feel warm and welcoming just for me.
I added a blanket I love, lit a candle with my favorite scent, and put on music that calmed me.
It’s not about making your home picture-perfect for visitors.
It’s about creating a space where you feel good.
When you enjoy the space you’re in, you’ll naturally enjoy the time you spend there — even if it’s just you.
3. Do activities that actually interest you
For a long time, I’d fill my alone time with activities I thought I “should” be doing.
Self-help books I didn’t really want to read.
Work projects that didn’t excite me.
And then I’d wonder why it still felt empty.
Now, I choose things that I genuinely enjoy — even if they seem small or “unproductive.”
It might be sketching in a notebook, trying a new recipe, or watching a comfort movie.
The key is to stop performing for some invisible audience.
Do things because they make you happy, not because they look good to others.
4. Let yourself be bored sometimes
We live in a world where we can fill every quiet second with scrolling, notifications, and background noise.
For years, I avoided boredom like it was dangerous.
But boredom isn’t the enemy.
It’s actually the space where creativity and self-reflection happen.
When I let myself be still — even if I feel restless at first — my mind starts to wander.
I think about my goals.
I notice how I’m really feeling.
I even come up with ideas I wouldn’t have had in the middle of constant stimulation.
If you can, give yourself a few minutes of “nothing” every day.
It’s more powerful than it sounds.
5. Take yourself out
The first time I went to a café alone, I felt like everyone was staring at me.
Of course, they weren’t — they were busy with their own lives.
Now, I love solo outings.
I take myself to lunch.
I go for long walks in places I haven’t explored.
Sometimes I sit in the park with a book.
Doing these things without waiting for someone to join you is freeing.
You stop putting your happiness on hold for other people’s schedules.
6. Keep a “company of one” ritual
One of the things that made me fall in love with my own company was creating a simple ritual just for me.
For me, it’s making a cup of green tea at night, wrapping myself in a blanket, and reading for 30 minutes.
It’s small, but it’s mine.
You could light a candle and journal, take a short evening walk, or listen to your favorite playlist with no distractions.
A personal ritual makes alone time feel special — something you look forward to instead of avoid.
7. Be honest about your feelings
You don’t have to pretend that being alone always feels amazing.
Some days it might feel empty.
Some days you might wish someone was there.
That’s normal.
When I feel that way, I don’t shame myself for it.
I just notice it, maybe text a friend if I need connection, and then return to what I was doing.
Enjoying being alone doesn’t mean you never want people around.
It just means you can find contentment even when they’re not.
8. Limit the noise
When I first started spending more time alone, I noticed how much noise was in my life — not just literal noise, but mental noise too.
Constant news updates.
Endless social media scrolling.
People’s opinions and dramas filling my mind.
If you fill every quiet moment with digital chatter, you’ll never really be with yourself.
I began by having “no phone” times — during my morning tea, or right before bed.
At first, it felt strange.
But soon, I started to feel calmer and more connected to myself.
9. Notice the benefits
The more I embraced alone time, the more I noticed its rewards.
I became more confident in my choices.
I felt less pressure to please everyone.
I started trusting my instincts.
The best part?
When I do spend time with others, I show up as a fuller, happier version of myself.
Once you notice these benefits, being alone starts to feel like a gift, not a gap.
Final Thought
If you’ve been afraid of your own company, I want you to know something.
You’re not strange for feeling that way.
You’re not weak for wanting people around.
But you are stronger than you think.
And learning how to enjoy being alone might just be one of the most freeing things you’ll ever do.
